Comments on: Hey October, just leave . . .

By: Sheila

Sheila — Fri, 11 Oct 2019 13:55:34 +0000

In reply to Phoebe.

Phoebe,

Thank you for your response. Your right it is comforting to know your not alone. I am a member and have read lots of stories of others peoples hardships because of the “List”. I have written some myself that are on here. I sometimes just have to step back from it a while to rest so to speak, not that a day goes by anyway with the nightmare of that night running through my head. The resentment I have for the accuser is beyond measure. She happens to be my age and was an aquatint/friend of mine. I will certainly write my Senator, that is one thing I have not done.

Best wishes to you as well!!

By: Phoebe

Phoebe — Thu, 10 Oct 2019 23:52:18 +0000

In reply to Sheila.

Thank you for being brave enough to comment. THIS is something I, too, am all too familiar with – the fear of saying anything or posting because of fear of people knowing about the situation you try so hard to suppress. Here are a few things I’d like to share with you.
(1) I have now traveled this road as a family member for years, so I am here to help you if you have questions. Go to Contacts above, email us, and ask for Phoebe.
(2) If you have not joined NCRSOL yet, I strongly urge you to do so. This is a way you can stay up to date on news, legislative calls to action, support, and all kinds of other pertinent info. Most importantly, we are building a community of people who can help guide each other. We all want to maintain our privacy. But – this process has allowed us to have mentors, to have a common bond, and build friendships.
(3) There will be a conference in RALEIGH in June of 2020. Stay tuned for more info on that. Registration has begun!
(4) PLEASE do this – email your Senator and Representative. Email them A LOT. Call their office. Tell them that Misdemeanors on the registry for 30 years makes no sense. Be very persistent about this. We have a list of legislators names that we continually contact and the more people they hear from, the better.

I hear you loud and clear and I sincerely thank you for sharing. Hearing from other people helps remind me I am not in this alone. There are others riding this same emotional roller coaster that I do. As for your son- keep being an encourager…he needs it. While is it a challenge to not be at sporting events (AGAIN, I know all too well!), he is still a parent. Love, love, love on those children. My hope is that we can make headways on the Misdemeanor charges.

Best wishes!! –Phoebe

By: Sheila

Sheila — Thu, 10 Oct 2019 15:34:18 +0000

This is so spot on. I’m a mother of a 25 year old RSO who has only been on it a year, as of now. He will be 54 before he is off this list. He loves Children and is a great step Dad who can no longer go to kids spots events , which he loves, and use to help coach a team, especially baseball as he played his whole life. He lives in Raleigh and loved going to the State Fair. His arrest had nothing to do with children, as a matter of fact, HE WAS THE CHILD, in the situation that ended up with a false misdemeanor charge against him. I am so frustrated with the RSOL which has the same rules for all. Everyone is then a PREDATOR. It makes me sick and I am all in on anything I can do to help change this. I do admit, I hesitate to put anything out on social media simply because I don’t want unwanted attention brought to my son. If I share things, It just lets people know, who have forgotten all the headlines in the papers and on the media about the arrest of my then 21 year old son. When they then realize he is on this list, they assume he was guilty…. so so sad 🙁

Thank you to all who are fighting for his and all Registered offenders who have no reason to even be there.